The COLLEGE Corner — One plus One, Single and ready to Mingle
Tips and tricks to online dating on Valentine’s Day: University Edition
Written by Britney Vu
Are you single and ready to mingle?
Are you desperate to have someone cuddle by your side?
Do you happen to like this girl/guy in one of your classes but are too shy to zoom direct message them?
Every year on February 14, the day where most couples celebrate Valentine’s Day to their lovers is a sweet and romantic moment to commemorate love and relationships. According to the Canadian International Merchandise Trade Database, over 11.1 million dozen cut roses and rose buds imported to Canada in 2016, from Colombia and Ecuador. People buy bouquet of flowers to their significant other, watch movies with them or even having a romantic dinner date over zoom or something. However, when the pandemic struck nations worldwide, it screwed up many in-person social interactions. (To be fair, my only relationship right now is with my house because I haven’t gone out in a while.)
The worst: for those of us who are single, Valentine’s Day (aka February 14) is a sad and burden time in history. I know some people got rejected on Valentine’s Day. I know some people got their hearts broken. Trust me, for those who are single, they envy that affectionate connection. Fear no more, I have a couple tricks up on my sleeve that would help you from going single to your hearts to tingle!
Here are some tips to enter the online dating world — or hit up some cute people at your college/university. ;)
1) Be bold. Seek discomfort. You like someone? Go for it and text them. Wanna ask a girl/guy our, go ahead. Don’t make regrets later. Don’t know what to text to your crush on Valentine’s Day?
— I told myself, “If I don’t take action — nothing will happen. Nothing will progress further if I don’t make a move.” I had to assume it in my mind because sometimes guys, too, are shy. I have a choice: I could act, or I do not and regret it later. As YES THEORY puts it: “Seek Discomfort.” Do it. Do it beyond your comfort zone! Even if you’re stressed, happy, or sad. You do not know what can happen next.
— It is just a text, nothing else. You should not worry what their response is. Instead, you should worry about other things. It is just a text message, nothing else. Don’t over-analyse the text. Keep it as a text, not some love confession letter. Don’t go hyping about it.
— Have a purpose when you text. Look, I know it’s your crush. But why are you texting him? Have a purpose and just text. For example, when I first sparked a conversation with my crush, I said: “Hi, what’s the French homework about?” My purpose was to ask about homework, as well as this is an excuse to talk to him.
— Don’t know what to say? Don’t start the conversation with “Hello, how are you?” because after the person says “Good,” the conversation will be dry afterwards. Instead, start the conversation with “Hey, what’s on your mind?” Afterwards, you may add words such as “and anything else?” to see if you can spark the conversation.
— Go with the flow. When you text to your crush, just go with the flow. If he seems disinterested, then it is not worth pursuing. If he texts and replies, then keep on chatting. Just text and go with the flow.
2) Be open, honest, and kind. This applies to every relationship. Better start to be completely open and honest in the beginning. Online dating is not an easy thing. It takes courage to open up to a stranger online. Also, avoid lying about yourself. Lying in a relationship causes distrust among couples which can lead to disasters. Just be honest when you meet them.
3) Change your wardrobe (you know, to impress them). I know everyone is concerned about their looks, but have you thought of modifying your wardrobe a bit? When we have a crush on someone, we want to portray our best looks to the public. I remembered when I was back in high school, whenever we had a free dress day (our school wears uniforms), I would choose my cutest outfit to wear and show it off to my crush. Then I walk by him, hoping he would complement my outfit. Try wearing nice, semi-formal clothing such as polos, blouses, dresses,
4) Send a digital (bad) pun card to your crush or significant other. Here are some awesome puns you can say on Valentine’s Day:
— Are you a triangle? Cause you’re acute.
— Can I avocuddle you tonight?
— Do you Rent books/DVDs, because I’d scan you out?
— Do you know Algebra, cause if do, can you solve the equation to my heart
— Are you a cat? because I think you’re purrfect.
— Are you a dog lover? Cause I think you’re wooftastic.
— Do you like books, because I’d write about you all day long?
— Be my Bonnie to my Clyde.
— Try finding more creative pun ideas on the Internet.
Or alternatively, here are some other ways you can confess on Valentine’s Day:— Be old-fashioned. Send them a letter with chocolates or flowers.
— Asked them out in a foreign language. Some girls/guys like it when you ask them out in another language.
— Make a Spotify playlist, confessing your love. I’ve seen many people did this in 2017 and 2018. Make a playlist with song titles above it, then when you are done, share it to your crush and let them listen to the playlist — and they will find out the answer soon. Just like what H. Woodley did on Twitter: Hannah on Twitter.
— If they are geeky & nerdy, make them solve a math equation. I mean, isn’t that a creative way to confess your crush your love? hehehe. Solve the equation to your crush’s heart, since he/she is the acute angle to your Pythagorean Theorem.
— Or even buy them (or make it yourself) the heart pizza or heart cookies.
5) Have some sort of a call. Whether it’s a video or voice call, try to stay connected through digital means. While yes texting them may be great, you don’t get any emotions or reactions through text compared to [in-person] video/voice calls.
6) If you are really desperate but have no other option, you may apply for online dating called “Datamatch.”
But for real, I am not sponsored by them by all means. According to Datamatch, it was founded on 1994 at Harvard University by a bunch of Harvard Computer Society students “banded together to make this matchmaking system a reality for their campus.” Datamatch has spread out to many US Ivy League schools such as Harvard, Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT), Yale University, Princeton University and much more! Now Datamatch has entered in Canada at McGill too!
Datamatch registration starts now (February 7, 2021) until midnight (Eastern time zones) on Valentine’s Day, and you will be matched with 10 people. After being matched, you must reach out to them and message them.
To see past Datamatch questionnaires and its detailed history, check out this article that shows the Datamatch history over the years!
If by the end of your Valentine’s Day journey you ended up being in the friend-zoned or rejected, it’s okay. Ouch. I have been there many times. Life is full of surprises. If you get a turned down, it is not the end of the world. Simply move on with until life until life throws another obstacle at you. It’s okay, your heart will heal in 3 days…you just need a small tub of ice cream and cheesy American love movies.
Cheers and good luck! ;)
Love is in the stars,
— Britney Vu